Aesthetics of marriage rituals in the Arab Gulf_Bahrain as a model
The next step begins, which is for the husband to send his mother and his family of women to see the bride and express their opinion on whether she suits him or not, due to social customs that prevent a meeting between a man and a woman, and here they have a point of view that a share may not occur, which will affect the reputation of the girl.
So the groom's mother is the woman who will reflect to her son the image of his wife, as she examines the bride, and the first thing she wants to know is who is the girl's mother? Because it will be a reflection of her, as they say, “Take the rose and smell it, so the girl will see her mother” and “Whoever is in the pot will be informed by the angels.” Therefore, they are convinced of the girl, especially if she is from a good family and origin and a good upbringing. And it is only a habit or curiosity to look at a woman’s body, as it is in their view a capital that a woman is proud of in front of her fellow woman. Hair has a role in the girl’s beauty, as well as her physical structure. And if the mother does not like the girl, the boy refuses. The woman’s role is important at this stage, because from the beginning of this stage, the woman’s role begins to complement other tasks related to marriage rituals. Here we notice that women choose women according to criteria determined by women. Likewise, the aunt, the “mother of the groom,” if her daughter-in-law is young, is patient with her and teaches her about household matters. The same applies to the husband. What is important is her origin and lineage.
After that, both the father of the groom and the father of the bride agree on the dowry, and Umm Muhammad was the first woman to raise the dowry in that period to four hundred dinars (four thousand rupees), as the dowries before the fifties amounted to only one hundred and fifty dinars (one thousand five hundred rupees), meaning that it increased To weakness and the reason for this is the emergence of oil.